FORGIVENESS — WHY ARE YOU STILL CARRYING THE PAIN OF WHAT SOMEONE ELSE DID TO YOU? ❤️

FORGIVENESS — WHY ARE YOU STILL CARRYING THE PAIN OF WHAT SOMEONE ELSE DID TO YOU? ❤️

Have you ever been hurt so deeply by someone's words, actions or lies that, even long after the incident, you still find yourself reliving the pain?

Have you ever found yourself going over and over in your mind what happened, what was said, and how someone could possibly have treated you that way?

Perhaps someone has judged you unfairly, spread untruths about you, betrayed your trust or caused you pain that they may never fully understand.

And perhaps, deep inside, you have told yourself, “I will never forgive them for what they have done to me.”

But have you ever stopped to think about who is still carrying that pain?

They may have caused the hurt, but are you allowing that hurt to continue taking away your peace?

Forgiveness is one of the hardest lessons we can learn, especially when we feel that we have been wronged and the other person has never acknowledged the pain they caused.

But forgiveness is not about saying what they did was right. It is not about forgetting, excusing their behaviour or allowing them back into your life.

It is about freeing yourself from the emotional chains that keep you tied to the very experience you desperately want to move beyond.

When we hold on to hatred, resentment and anger, we can unknowingly keep ourselves tied to the very person who caused us pain. We replay conversations, revisit moments, question what happened and relive the hurt over and over again. It can drain our energy, affect our peace of mind and take up space in our lives that could otherwise be filled with happiness and love.

The person may have hurt us once, but by continually reliving that hurt, we can find ourselves suffering from it time and time again.

I know forgiveness is not always easy. Some wounds run very deep, and some things take a long time to come to terms with. Forgiveness cannot be forced, and we should never judge someone for needing time to heal.

But perhaps, little by little, we can begin to release the anger. Not for their sake, but for ours. We can reach a place where the memory remains, but the pain no longer controls us. Where we remember what happened without allowing it to determine how we feel today.

As a Spiritualist, I believe that our life here on Earth is part of a much greater journey of the soul.

I believe that when we return to the spirit world, we will have the opportunity to review the life we have lived, not just through our own eyes, but through the eyes of those we have touched along the way.

We will come to understand the hurt our words may have caused, the pain our actions may have created, and the consequences of the way we have treated others. It is through this understanding that our souls grow, learn and move forward. We may have to face truths about ourselves that we were unwilling to acknowledge whilst here on Earth.

This is why I believe that when someone hurts me, I do not need to seek revenge or carry the burden of hatred in my heart. Their journey is theirs, and the lessons they must learn are theirs to face. I have my own soul to nurture, my own lessons to learn, and my own spiritual path to follow.

Forgiving someone does not mean that I believe what they did was right. It means I am choosing not to allow their actions to continue hurting my soul.

I believe that God created this world with universal laws, and that these laws work in their perfection. Everything we do, every word we speak and every action we take has consequences. We may not always see those consequences, understand when they will unfold, or know how another soul will learn from them.

But I do not believe I need to take justice into my own hands, nor do I need to carry bitterness in my heart while waiting for life to put things right.

Think of the sea. It ebbs and flows, following the natural laws that govern it. Think of the seasons, each arriving in its own time, allowing nature to grow, change and renew itself. We cannot force the tide, nor can we command the seasons to turn before their time.

There is a natural order to God's creation, and I believe that we, too, must learn that we cannot control everything that happens to us. But we can learn how we choose to carry it.

For me, forgiveness is part of my spiritual growth. It is about releasing the hurt, finding peace within myself, and allowing my soul to move forward without being chained to the actions of another. I do not need to know how or when universal law will unfold. I simply need to have faith that I am responsible for my own thoughts, words and actions, just as others are responsible for theirs.

We can choose peace over resentment, love over hatred, and healing over repeatedly reopening old wounds.

This does not make us weak. In fact, I believe it takes great strength to forgive someone who has genuinely hurt us. It takes courage to release the anger when we feel we have every reason to hold on to it.

So, if someone has hurt you, please remember this: you do not have to forget what happened, and you do not have to invite that person back into your life. You can forgive and still have boundaries. You can move forward without ever needing to rebuild a relationship.

Forgive when you are ready. Heal in your own time. Keep the lessons, keep your boundaries, but release the bitterness.

Because forgiveness is not about saying that what happened was right.

It is about deciding that what happened will no longer have the same power over your life.

And sometimes, the greatest freedom we can give ourselves is to put down the hurt we have carried for far too long.

Remember, forgiveness is not about setting the other person free from responsi bility. It is about setting yourself free from the pain.